Sunday's Soak in the Word – Encourage, not discourage


For those following me on my blogs, you’ve read about a difficult week we’ve had. The Lord must have a real treasure waiting to be revealed, which will bring great honor to Him, because it seems we keep facing a situation over and over.

There will always be those that will find something to be angry with you about, that won’t really hear what you’re saying – only what they think you are saying. It’s only compounded when it’s people that should be the closest to you.

While it’s hard to understand, we just have to know that all that matters to the Lord is that we speak in love, in truth (though this might not always be what’s wanted to be heard), treating others as we would the Lord Himself.

To be honest, the situation had me stressed – prompting a lot of contractions this week. The Lord knew my concerns and heard my prayers, as my 36 week visit showed no further changes from past pre-term issues.

And besides stressed, I was becoming depressed. It’s hard to be happy and feel good about life in general when you’re being misunderstood and treated wrongly – at least for me! I knew my focus shouldn’t be on others, but when it bothers DH and my children too, well, I was aching for them.

Tears were wiped by my 4 year old son, not understanding why Mommy was crying – as well as prompting him to cry. No tears, but you could see DH’s heart was broken once again.

Then Friday, we had to go for my check-up and chiropractor visit. You know, I wasn’t expecting a blessing, but boy did I ever get one! Actually, not just one, but TWO!!

I had been concerned about the ‘distraction’ my 3 little ones might be while waiting at the OB office. I brought a magazine of my son’s, and we read through that while waiting. They were excited, and a little loud – but after saying something to them, they would talk softly again.

Little did I know I was being watched! As we were checking out, someone came up behind me and asked my children’s ages. She was a mom of 3, with a 4th on the way as well. Much to my surprise, she began thanking me for resetting her priorities with her children.

Now, let me say now, I am NOT a perfect mother and will never claim to be!!! I did have a rather open spirit with my children that day, as I’m trying to focus more on them and their needs rather than myself. I know my time with them will be limited somewhat when this little one arrives in a few more weeks.

But she thanked me for being so patient, and an encouragement as a mom. Little did she know, she was encouraging ME! I could see she really was sincere and touched, but no where as much as I was by her kind words!

Then later that afternoon, an old friend again, out of the blue, said some encouraging, unexpected things to me. From that moment on, my stress has been lifted. What a difference a kind word makes!

I have several passages to share related to this topic, and I know there are more. So if you have other references handy, please comment with them! It’s just late and DH is waiting for me to get some sleep. :) (Emphasis is mine….)

Hebrews 10:23-25 – “Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

Ephesians 4:29 -“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11 – “Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.”

Reading these verses, I am reminded that as Christians, we aren’t here to throw insults or be angry with one another. These only provoke more anger and bitterness – far from good works.

 NO – we are to provoke to love and good works, minister grace to others by our GOOD words, and comfort one another.

Yes, there are times when we must be firm in what is right, not accepting what is not acceptable, but this can be done without anger and harsh words. This can be done without raising voices, without talking over another.

These two ladies on Friday ministered to me in a GREAT way, and I am so grateful the Lord brought them into my life at a time when I was down! They didn’t know what they were doing, but they were glorifying the Lord.

So now, my thoughts go to who I might be able to ‘surprise’ with a kind word of encouragement. We never really know what is going on in the lives of others, but God does! Ask Him to place someone on your heart today, this week, that you can minister to. I stand 100% behind it – everyone will be blessed by a kind word spoken with the love of the Lord!

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Candace  (I’m on Facebook – Mrs. Candace)